Be the Guardian of Your Mind

Be the Guardian of Your Mind – What Do You Allow to Enter?

Do you control your thoughts, or do they control you?

We don’t always choose what life brings us — but we can choose what stays in our mind.

Each day, hundreds (if not thousands) of thoughts, emotions, impulses, beliefs, and voices pass through our inner world. Some of them are our own. Many are not.

When the mind is unguarded, noise moves in freely

Think about it — you wouldn’t let a stranger walk into your home without knocking. So why let any random thought, fear, or internal critic make itself at home in your mind?

When you’re not consciously choosing what you give attention to, your life is driven by autopilot:

• Childhood conditioning

• Social expectations

• Fear loops and anxiety

• Comparison

• Self-doubt and critical voices

Your mind is a filter, not a garbage bin

This filter works in connection with your nervous system. According to Polyvagal Theory, your nervous system state directly shapes how you perceive the world:

• In safety, the mind opens and becomes clear.

• In fight-or-flight, it prepares for attack or defense.

• In shutdown/freeze, it spirals into hopelessness, numbness, or detachment.

Calm down: You’re not broken — your nervous system might simply be overwhelmed.

So, how to become the guardian of your mind?

This is not about control or “thinking positive.” It’s about awareness — the ability to notice and choose.

Here are a few steps, that I follow on a daily basis:

1. Catch the thought early

When you notice yourself thinking: “I’m not good enough” — pause. Ask: “Who is saying this?” Is it truly you? Or an old echo? A parent's voice? A past failure?

2. Return to the body

Ground your feet. Take a deep breath.

Ask: “What does this thought feel like in my body?” Does it constrict or expand me?

3. Set internal boundaries

Not all thoughts are invited guests.

You can say: “Thanks, but I don’t need you anymore.” You can shift your focus, take a walk, breathe, or simply choose again.

Questions to ask yourself:

• Does this thought empower or diminish me?

• Does this emotion arise from connection or fear?

• Is this voice leading me toward life or away from it?

Being a guardian of your mind is not a one-time act — it's a daily practice. A discipline. A form of self-respect.

If you don’t choose your focus, your subconscious will — and it often chooses based on outdated survival patterns.

You are the one who decides.

You are the one who allows — or doesn’t.

You stand at the gate of your awareness — choose consciously who you open it to.